To believe in something and not live it is dishonest. – Mahatma Gandhi

We have all been dishonest at some point in our lives. The physical and mental anguish that comes along with it should change our minds towards dishonesty. However to please others, to keep up appearances we continue with our charade. That is until we reach a breaking point.

A breaking point occurs when you have had enough with the dishonesty, enough with playing games and enough of lying to yourself. An act of pure courage breaks that dishonest past and transforms it to a hopeful future. Courage sometimes begins with letting go of the past and flying. You might have the fear of falling, but the first step constitutes taking that risk. So what if you fall…at least you faced your fear. So what if you fail…at least you have a chance to begin again. So what if…

That breaking point leads to honesty. It leads to being true to yourself. It leads to finding out what truly matters in life. Things that are unseen like relationships, love, faith and hope. Dreams revolve around these enigmas. It is only then that life is lived truthfully. There is no such thing as coincidence. There is only fate. Certain things happen to strengthen your resolve as a person chosen to live this life. That is where gratitude comes into play.

Gratitude reveals the truth of life.  It is by being grateful that life is experienced at a deeper level. Being grateful for food in the fridge, love from family and friends, clothes on your back and shelter to call home,  leads to respect for God, yourself and each other. Being grateful for the joys and pains of life, for without them you would not be where you are today. Being grateful for the “what if” in life that drove you from the state of dishonesty to truth. Ask yourself whether you are living the life you believe in. Ask yourself whether you are trying to please other people all of the time. Ask yourself whether you have the courage to be true to yourself and take the risk of allowing your life to reflect what you believe. Ask yourself what if…

Know that when you take this risk to be true to yourself that God promised to never leave you. He will hold your hand no matter what decision you make he will be there with you. He is the One who gives you the courage to stand strong in your faith. Pray from the depths of your heart. Trust that God is with you. Be forever grateful in all circumstances. For someone once said that when life is wonderful thank God and celebrate and when life is bitter thank God and grow. Even when you take that risk to be true, there is no need to worry for God will either catch you when you fall or teach you how to fly in a more fulfilling way. For God’s plans always exceed our widest expectations.





The 3Cs: Cool, Calm and Collected


Just gather your thoughts and breathe.


Too many times we see people fly off the handle. Too many times we fly off the handle. What causes us to get angry? We feel a sense of hurt or betrayal. We feel that someone has mistreated or taken advantage of us in some way. Our human character conditions us to believe that justice must be served. Yet we are frustrated when our efforts to make things right from our perspective become thwarted. The best laid plans transform into the worst made plans and we suffer the consequences linked to our impatience and desire for a speedy resolution to our conflict.


staycoolYet the advice is to relax. Stay cool. Keep calm. Be collected. If we follow that advice, our thinking changes towards our perceived injustice. When tensions ride high in moments where emotions overtake sound reasoning, we must be still and breathe. By doing this we slow our heart rate that races in the heat of the moment. As our heart rate slows all things connected with it, physically, mentally and spiritually will do the same. We look at the situation through the lens of objectivity. Our mind becomes focused on a search for a resolution which will benefit all involved in the conflict and not just ourselves.

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Whenever we think of the 3Cs: Cool, Calm and Collected, a visualisation of a yoga pose comes to mind. Whether it is the lotus position or downward dog, the meditative posture dominates our thinking. The concept of Zen also comes into the visualisation as there is a balance and a harmony of mind, body and soul. Unfortunately, the skill of the 3Cs is not mastered overnight. It takes years of self discipline and training. As a famous Zen proverb postulates, “the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” Instead of taking the easy way out and flying off the handle when anger arises. Instead of suffering the consequences of hasty moves and decisions. Take a single step towards the 3Cs. Stay cool, keep calm and be collected. A calm mind is the most effective weapon in the difficulties of life.


Just gather your thoughts and breathe.