These words are uttered at the end of a wedding ceremony by the priest in charge: “What God has joined together, let no man put asunder.” Jesus originally uttered these words when he was tested by the Pharisees and scribes about the subject of divorce. Jesus champions the cause of marriage by stating that this union with God is so strong that only God himself could separate them at death. Yet there is another angle which we could examine this utterance.
What if God did not join the couple together? What if the couple joined themselves together based on their own desires? They knew what they were getting into in the first place but one partner believed that they could change the other, without realising that both persons needed the necessary change in their lives. We are so eager to point out flaws in others without examining ourselves at first. Therefore if the couple was not joined by God, can man then put asunder the relationship of marriage?
Marriage today is in crisis. Persons who are married are living one way on the outside and another on the inside. Women are more autonomous as they are working for themselves along with the responsibilities of the household. Today’s modern woman is the one who gives the impression that she can do it all. In the years before, women were not allowed to work. Their role was that of home maker. Therefore, when the marriage fell beyond expectations, women usually had to hold it together. This was a common place scenario. However today, women and men need to develop strategies to keep their marriages together. When disagreements arise, there is no need to answer back. Let that person quarrel alone. Keep trying at the relationship, no matter how hopeless the circumstances may seem. Also focus on the many blessings in life, which God has given to you, instead of your overwhelming perception of the current circumstances. For the evil one is waiting to destroy the sacred institutions of marriage and family life.
Instead of resentment for the happily married, the feeling of rejoicing replaces that as our prayers for marriage are answered in their lives. Respect the institution of marriage, for it was ordained by God from the human acceptance of the beginning of time. It was not good for the man to be alone and that is why He made woman to be a partner for the man throughout his life. That is why the man leaves his mother and father and joins together with his wife. The two become one with God as their guide in life. That is what makes marriage God ordained for they were joined together by God. Once that is the case, no matter how hard the evil one tries, no man or woman can separate it. Marriage is worth fighting for.